If I know even one thing about you, it’s that your life looks different than it did last year, maybe in big ways, maybe in small. This past year, and well, every year before that, we clumsily struggled to balance the big and the little, with varying degrees of success. If every single thing coming our way was a major life event, we’d be exhausted and broke. We can’t have a baby every day, or get married every week, indefinitely stay on that grand vacation, or graduate every couple of months. For sure, your aunt would eventually stop sending cards stuffed with $20.
After all the big stuff you fit in this year, comes the avalanche of small, with a few mediums squeezed in. We waver back and forth between celebrating the little, and wallowing in the little, and complaining about the little, then not sweating the little, as many a bumper sticker and motivational book advises us to do. Just as our life can’t be all big, it can’t be all little, because then I would have to mark my milestones with vanilla lattes and deals I’ve found at Target.
And so here we are, at the very best time of year to take stock in our lives – the big and the little – and remember that there’s simply more good than bad, and the big stuff sometimes isn’t as big as we think, and the little not as insignificant as it first appears.
- However your family is constructed, whether it’s made of blood relatives or people you hand-picked, what a gift they are. These are some of the few people you still call on the phone, and ask favors of without feeling weird. You love them. And even after knowing all that stuff about you – the real you -the you that’s a poor sport, and a terrible singer, and chronically late, they love you back anyway.
- Whoever your friends are, however difficult they may be, however many times you have driven them to the airport or helped them move, they know what you’re like at the end of a long night out, and that you have the tendency to talk too much/too little over coffee, and guess what? They still want to hang out with you, and you still want to hang out with them. They invite you to watch the game, or for a mani/pedi, and they don’t even mind that you are not as good at planning those kinds of outings as they are.
- Maybe this is the year you gave up soda and dropped a few pounds. You ate clean and were the poster child for green juice. No? Guess what, another opportunity to juice everything is around the corner. And for whatever parts of you that seem to be working fine and humming along today, getting you where you need to be, thanks and hallelujah!
- At least once a week, I threaten to quit reading the news, because lately it’s really just terrible, on a big global scale – TERRIBLE. But hey, this year, healthy panda triplets were born, and human twins were born holding hands. And remember when the Giants won the World Series? (Skip that one if you have to, Royals/Cardinals/Dodgers fans). Jimmy Fallon’s doing a great job with the Tonight Show; we still have another year of Tina Fey and Amy Poehler hosting the Golden Globes; it’s ok to wear loose fitting jeans again, and Gen Xers everywhere are celebrating the fashionable return of the plaid flannel shirt. This year a Time Magazine cover told us to “Eat Butter.” It’s true, look it up, then eat some butter.
And don’t forget….
- You celebrated a birthday – maybe even a big one.
- At least one TV show you love did not get cancelled.
- The time changed, and even though you hated it at first, you got used to it. So much so, you got mad when it changed again.
- You ate a comfort meal that reminded you of your childhood.
- You saw a breathtaking sunset/sunrise/full moon.
- You splurged on something you shouldn’t have, but it felt great.
- You read something that made you laugh/cry ugly/think hard.
- You had the world’s best cup of coffee.
- You helped someone who needed it.
- Someone helped you when you needed it.
- You found that thing you thought you’d lost. It was under the car seat/couch/pile of papers on the kitchen counter.
- You found out they’re making Toy Story 4.
- You got waaaaaaaaaaaay into the World Cup, and you didn’t let anybody forget it.
- You didn’t have to get a new phone/you got to get a brand new phone!
- Your March Madness bracket busted early, but that’s ok, so did everybody’s.
- You finally learned the definition of zeitgeist/alchemy/schadenfreude/bae (thanks kids!) and look forward to putting them to good use in 2015, (much to the chagrin of said kids).
- You got through something you didn’t know you could get through.
- You got a little wiser.
- And someone out there, whether you know it or not, is thankful for you.
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16 thoughts on “gratitude in the year 2014”
I’m thankful for the fulcrum chronicles! You make me smile, dear friend. Miss you lots.
Aw, Jen, thanks!! And I sure miss you too! xoxo
Love this! except the part about the World Series, but hey, I got to go to St Louis this year and see a game in person.
Now, I’d be grateful if you could help me find my sunglasses– they aren’t in any of the places you mentioned. 😉
Are you suuuuuure they didn’t fall down the door side of the passenger seat? I have lost many a phone there. The Cardinals still had a pretty good year – right? so….yay?!? thanks for the note! xoxo
Love love over this ❤️😄
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Wow! Thank you Pam!! xoxo
Yup…I am thankful for the little things and big things…better health, better sleep, last weight to carry around…finding my check book under my bed! And I’m really thankful for your blog and way your words encourage and lift me up!! Happy Gobbler Day and beyond!
Thank you so so much Gerald! And Happy Thanksgiving to you!!
Another beautiful piece! I’m thankful for all your thoughtful made-me-smile blogs this year. Your words have so much positive power. Have a great Thanksgiving!
Thank you so much Diana and Happy Thanksgiving to you!!
Love this! More please! xo
Thank you Lori! Xoxo
Your piece puts it all in perspective. It made me cry happy, grateful tears!
So much loss this year but so much to be thankful for!
Thank you for the reminder!
I always love your blog! xo
Thank you so much Nanci – What a lovely note!! I really appreciate it! xoxo
Love it!! Well done!!
Thank you, Colleen! Very well said, as always! Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family! 😀Carson